![]() ![]() The show itself seems to have "NT / neurotypical savior" issues.The most likely target audience is NT parents of autistic children. "Love on the Spectrum" is clearly made with an NT / neurotypical audience in mind, not an autistic one.These clear differences in perception and opinion indicate two things to me here. "But it’s admittedly hard to untangle these concerns from my fears as an older autistic person feeling protective (or overprotective) of her younger counterparts.Perhaps accepting that autistic reality show stars will be subject to the same hazards as non-autistic ones-and respecting the autonomy of those who choose to participate-is its own awkward step toward equality." "It underscores the fact that everyone is different, and at its best, this show is a compassionate, human celebration of difference, and of love."Ĭontrast this autistic reviewer's opinion on the show, which was far more mixed. ![]() While r/aspergers clearly dislikes the show, NTs / neutrotypicals have also given it reviews like the following, which praises the parents, instead of the actual autistic people looking for love. (Or, as a previous 2015 film was called, "Autism in Love".) Notice how the words "autism" and "spectrum" are literally in the title, and thus, the focal point of the show(s). Replace "trans" with "autism", and you get "Love on the Spectrum". However, instead of focusing on the trans people as people, the show instead focuses on the "trans" part, including showing other people laughing at and making fun of some of the trans people for."being trans", basically. Put it this way.imagine if Netflix had created a show called "Trans Love", about transgender people looking for love. Never heard from them again or got a txt saying 'it's not working." "I was dating a guy/gal and things were going well. Even posts around here where it has happened. Like seriously seen plenty of 'our' people doing well with dating until they mention the damn spectrum. Might be a problem if you don't tell people you're a serial killer, but it shouldn't matter if you don't spell out to every person you meet that you have a touch of teh Rain Mans. Of course it is different for everybody, do what works for you, be just sure to be yourself and honest. No need for "yeah because I am an Aspergers." Things just come in a little bit more dialled up for me than most folks. "I noticed being in noisy environments seems to affect you." "yeah because I am hyper-sensitive. No need for "yeah because I am an autistic." "I noticed you seem anxious around large groups of people." "Yeah that's because I have social anxiety. Just be honest when or if THEY notice something and bring it up. So yeah, let people judge you on your actions. The change in some people who knew me forever. But oh boy once I got that 'autism' label. I was just a little bit different to people. People used to just call me nerdy, or eccentric. People tend to be more accepting of a 'label' once they get to know you. In fairness, he’s a college professor now, so the whole “talking into the air at nobody in particular” thing really works out well for him. The other feels a little cold and isolating from my side of the room. One feels engaging, conversational, and brings us closer. We’ve been happily married for 10 years this month! I love him dearly, but there are DEFINITELY two different talking modes. Within the first few weeks of dating, one night I noted the time on a nearby clock and timed how long he talked without me visually or verbally acknowledging him in any way. My husband can be looking in a different direction and is still talking to me, being engaging in other ways that don’t involve eye direction, but he also has another mode where he really is talking into the air and is not conversing WITH me. As a not-autistic person, (full disclosure, I haven’t watched the show yet) I am married to someone with Aspergers and I totally understand the “talk to me, not to yourself” thing.
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